He says I’m “too good” for him, what does that mean?

So… he tells you that you’re too good for him and you’re confused as to what that may mean? Oh it’s really simple what he means, he means, “I’m not 100% good with myself and I can see that you are and I don’t want to drag you down or hurt you because I will“, yeah that sums it up.

As young women, from personal experience, we always want to help these “men” recognize the good women that we are by being supportive, being there whenever needed, or even being sexually available for them because actions speak louder than words right? These guys will see how “down” we are or that we’re the “ride or die ” type right? WRONG, that couldn’t be farther from the truth. Men are pretty simple creatures. They don’t speak in code or in between lines and their actions will tell you how they feel about you… but wait.. didn’t you just read that actions don’t speak louder than words? Yes, but think about it if he  already told you what type of individual he really is, then is it really confusing as to why he won’t reciprocate or make a commitment to you?

Hurt people, hurt people. Take note and always remember this. Yes the vicious cycle continues until awareness is gained and then the real work can be done. What work you might ask, internal work. In order to love others, one must love them selves first. Another thing to think about when being hung up on someone who isn’t for our best interest is if it ever gets to the point where it’s ever confusing, it’s wrong. Dating shouldn’t be difficult if if is then wave and say Sayonara. Really it’s ok! Dating should be about spending time and getting to know another who is equally as interested and invested in getting to know you too! Masquerades can only disguise a face for so long after awhile the face will become too itchy and the skin will need to breathe, unleashing the REAL person underneath.

But let’s get down to the real reason why we find ourselves in these types of situations… if we keep attracting guys like this then it’s pretty obvious there’s something that they’re aiming to teach us. Think about it… in school if we don’t learn what we need to in each grade we don’t graduate to the next, why can’t it be the same for life? So if you find yourself in a situation like this where your relationship isn’t balanced whether it involve cheating, lying, abuse, or etc, think about what it is that they are trying to teach you about yourself, maybe then you will be able to understand “its” purpose in your life….

Learn and be happy above all else!!!

Amber Choisella

 

Nothing I Forgot To Say..

I was inspired by another blogger to write about you.

So much of you is everything I’ve ever wanted

to see

you know, to really perceive,

and be part of my reality. You are…

 

Words that fade when I reach to say how I feel about…

 

You are galaxies, not a fallacy of my  many dreams

Bright like our star, you create a greater aura therefore

it is my best that I owe ya.

 

You are my favorite above the rest.

 

You are Love.

To Thief Who Tried to Ruin My Easter

Dear Thief,

I want to initially state how devastated I was to find out that I did not have enough money to pay for dinner out with friends this past Saturday night. When I had just paid for lunch earlier in the day. Hours later my envelope of cash was gone… I’m thankful my boyfriend was with me, but nonetheless I felt like I had been violated.

Instead of going to church on Sunday I stayed home to save gas until my following pay day which would be a few days out. I spent the day resting as my body screamed for me to do. I then came to realize that whoever took the rest of what I had probably really needed it for whatever reason. If I look at the situation as such then I was doing my part in assisting mankind; granted it would’ve been nice to be asked first, but I did my part. Before bed I prayed and verbally, mentally, and spiritually forgave the individual who took from me, and prayed again during my morning meditation.

Long story short, by “giving to others ” I was given back most of what I had originally lost unexpectedly, and just like that another lesson was learned. Why weep over things we cannot control, because it’s all part of life’s learning experiences. So if you shall ever read this Thief, know that you are forgiven and I ask Spirit, God, and the Universe that you may always receive what you need because just as karma is given so is reciprocity.

Sincerely,

The Woman Who Forgives

Jazz for the Soul

I feel like I should be smoking a cigar while sitting

on a wide house porch somewhere near the bayous of New Orleans.

Where the air is un-still and I have no sense of will, just laziness as I

sit in a large wooden rocking chair listening to The Dave Brubeck Quartet.

But when I’m listening to Vince Guaraldi I’m sitting on a porch during the Fall

within a rain forest build for Home. Everything is perfection and both are considered

Home.

 

u·biq·ui·tous

Your eyes sometimes look like this and I get lost in them.

Floating aimlessly and “directionlessly”, wish I could stay here, or there

amidst the stars and the nebulae… I should be able to tell you why or how I feel but words freeze where there’s dis-ease and I’m just sick of not being able to tell you, long sigh..

So I stare and get lost, no panic, as you hold me close. I’m nowhere yet everywhere you are. Find me there.